TRANSFORMATIONAL TIPS TO BUILD SELF WORTH
by Siona Howard
Understand yourself
Being aware of how we think, the way we speak, the way we perceive and how we represent ourselves to the world, can be eye opening. Think, speak, perceive and represent kindness, honesty, dignity and love. Be your own best friend.
Overcome the fear of “self love”
Many people mistake self love for an egotistical type of arrogance or selfishness. Healthy self love is about being your own favourite companion. Self love is about treating yourself with the same tolerance, care, compassion, honesty, acceptance and generosity as you would a loved one. People who genuinely value themselves are the kindest people in the world.
Look into your own eyes
Looking in the mirror is a common daily exercise for most people. To look at and groom our appearance is an important step each day. To go one step further and be able to look deep into our own eyes and say kind words to the soul that lives inside us, is the most empowering thing that we can do to raise our self love and worth. It is hard at first however like all things…practice makes it easier. Look with eyes of LOVE.
Forgive yourself
As our journey to self love moves along, things come up which will seem like an excuse to fail...“OUR MISTAKES”. Recognising, accepting and moving on from our mistakes is a huge part of the journey to self love. Until they are bought to the surface and dealt with in whatever form they need to be, they will stay with us. It is not just okay to have made mistakes in our lives…it would actually be considered extremely unusual not to have made any. The feeling we get from releasing, understanding, accepting and letting go of our mistakes is the most freeing feeling in the universe. Be honest - Be free.
Be responsible
“Responsibility” is about owning up to the fact that we are in control of our attitude, our reactions and our sense of worth. As Eleanor Roosevelt once said “no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” We need to accept the responsibility for our circumstances and our behaviour. No blame. No justifying. We need to make decisions for our lives and act upon them. Never resign.
Trust your instincts
Self worth plummets when we let others make decisions for us and although it may seem like an easy option at first, it can ultimately take us down a path where we make less and less decisions for ourselves. Everyone is entitled to their story. We will know what is good for us when we listen to our inner voice…our intuition. Listen, tune in and trust.
Surround yourself with inspiring, supportive and like-minded people
Associating with positive, supportive and uplifting people really does bring out the best in us. When we are accepted, encouraged and appreciated we feel better about ourselves and it brings out all of our wonderful characteristics. When we live in a positive environment, we can not help but feel good about ourselves. Being valued makes us feel happy and feeling happy lifts our creativity, our confidence and our smile!
Remember your past achievements
Re-calling past memories of our achievements helps to build us up. Throughout our lives, we have all been good at many things. Remembering them brings satisfaction, pride, fond memories, and joy. We often forget about the things we have achieved because we are looking towards the next success. Remembering our past success actually helps us to reach our next success as it brings back all of the associated positive feelings. Remember your positive past, it will serve as your own cheerleader for future success.
List your positive qualities
Recognising our strengths and our positive traits is an essential part of self love. No matter who we are, what we look like, what we sound like or what we can do…we all have unique and wonderful qualities. Being able to list them is a breakthrough to self acceptance. Turn these qualities into affirmations as daily reminders, ie; “I am a beautiful Mother!”
Say “thank you”
Being able to say “thank you when we are given a compliment is something many people find difficult to do. When we reject a compliment, the message we are sending ourselves is that we are not good enough or worthy of the praise. We are also rejecting the person who gave us this gift. Respond to all compliments by saying “thank you”. You are worthy.
Help yourself
Today, there many resources and people willing to help us reach our full potential. Seek them and take advantage of them for they will pave the path for your happiness and success. We all need support, help and guidance sometimes. Being able to ask for help will open the door immediately. Your warm welcome awaits you!
The real you is a unique and outstanding being with enormous potential and capacity to experience a life full of love. As your SELF WORTH grows, all the areas of your life prosper. The real you emerges as someone who is centred, passionate, deeply loved and full of joy!
THE POWER OF VISUALISATION
by Siona Howard
Over the years I have become a huge believer in the power of visualisation. Although it has not always been easy or totally effective, I have had some outstanding and miraculous results which have given me a tower of faith.
One thing I am sure of is that when I am unquestionably determined, absolutely definite, deeply passionate and have unbreakable belief...my visions become a reality. I had to harvest a very high level of intensity. For the visuals that have not manifested or simply fizzled away, I either had a blockage, lack of belief worrying about "how" it could possibly come true or I just didn't want it enough...I had no ENERGY behind it.
Having a visual picture of your goals and desires in your mind is the perfect place to start, however there are so many more elements which your visualisation needs before it came become a reality.
Here are some tips to enhance the success of your visualisations... ****
1. Visualise your goal as if it is happening NOW. Make it REAL and BELIEVABLE in your mind (Belief is vital!)
2. Create a positive affirmation or a statement to support your goal. (Something that makes you feel excited and something you can use to re-call your goal easily) This MUST be stated in the POSITIVE and it MUST be stated in the present (as if it is already happening). ~ eg: "I am..." "I have..."
3. Draw it and put it on your wall. Put it in a frame, on your desk, at your bedside or on the mirror in the bathroom! The more you see it, the more often you will be reminded of it. You are training your brain to manifest this goal!!
4. WRITE about it! Explore all the possibilities and discover what it is that you are truly seeking from this goal. Writing helps us to generate positive feelings about the unlimited possibilities! Write your affirmation on little stickers and keep them in your wallet, on your mirror, on the computer, in the car...anywhere!
5. FEEL it! What does it feel like to be living in this desired reality? Gather as much excitement and happiness as you can and celebrate it!
6. TALK about it! SING about it! WRITE a song about it!
7. TASTE it, HEAR it, LOVE it & OWN it.
8. BELIEVE it! BELIEVE it! BELIEVE it! BELIEVE IT!
The more effort, dedication and FEELING you put in to it, the stronger the connection. Our feelings release our electromagnetic energy into the universe and it is that energy that contains our own innate power. Our imagination is one of the most dynamic and incredible faculties we possess...and when it is used with understanding, it can take us anywhere.
Remember - Miracles happen everyday...the birth of a child, the sun rising and setting, your body healing itself and men walking on the moon....just to name a minuscule few. You are just as incredible. You CAN make things happen in your life. Visualisation is a super power and you possess it!!
Siona xxx
